Well, I've not been here on my blog for a while and I was starting to think if I even had time for it anymore...
You see, I've had some new and exciting responsibilities lately, one of them being to host a live TV show every week night at 11pm and finishing at midnight. But the changes were taking their toll on me.
I'm a morning type of person, preferring to wake up early, getting all my work done throughout the day and only resting and unwinding in the evenings. Now however, after a busy day, instead of unwinding, I get ready for TV, makeup, hair, clothes, the works. It’s like I'm starting a brand new day, within an existing day.
All of a sudden, organised and disciplined Chris was all over the place. I was playing catch-up. The show finishes at midnight, but of course, by the time I'm home and have spent time with my husband (to look after my marriage), I've been going to bed a lot later. And because my mind is still in TV mode, I don’t drop off to sleep for a while.
Going to bed so late, I can't drag myself out of bed the normal time, so then I started feeling bad. I complained to my husband about not being able to wake up as early and he told me off, "What do you expect? Your day doesn't finish until midnight so stop feeling bad and just rest a bit in the mornings."
Going to bed so late, I can't drag myself out of bed the normal time, so then I started feeling bad. I complained to my husband about not being able to wake up as early and he told me off, "What do you expect? Your day doesn't finish until midnight so stop feeling bad and just rest a bit in the mornings."
My usual routine had been interrupted and I was finding it really hard to adapt. I was struggling with things at home and was behind with everything.
So I made a decision. I had to adapt to my current responsibilities instead of trying to do what I normally do. You see, the actual problem wasn't my new responsibilities, but what was blocking me was my state of mind and being 'stuck in my ways.'
So, do you know what I did? I created a ‘new normal’. I’ve had to rearrange my schedule, drop a few things that I normally do, and politely say no to a few things. I'm still very busy but I'm not stressed or feeling guilty about things anymore.
So I made a decision. I had to adapt to my current responsibilities instead of trying to do what I normally do. You see, the actual problem wasn't my new responsibilities, but what was blocking me was my state of mind and being 'stuck in my ways.'
So, do you know what I did? I created a ‘new normal’. I’ve had to rearrange my schedule, drop a few things that I normally do, and politely say no to a few things. I'm still very busy but I'm not stressed or feeling guilty about things anymore.
Things change from time to time and our usual routine will be affected. It could be added responsibilities, starting a new job, getting married, having a baby, moving house, and so on. The trick is not to panic, pray, sit down and plan out the best way and time to do things, see what you need to drop, what you need to rearrange and then just get on with it. Create your ‘new normal’ until the next challenge comes along... and trust me, there will ALWAYS be new challenges...
Well thank you, I have been so disorganised that my house work, work, finaces and healthy have been affected. Well I will soon have to go back on line.
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ReplyDeletethank you mrs chris for your honesty because this has helped me so much and showed me that i do not need to be looking back to how things were but to make do with what i have in front of me. so i also need to create a "new mormal" schedule for myself. thank you again
ReplyDeleteI can 100% relate to what you said.
ReplyDeleteNot long ago I was a third year university student, leader of CBC, restauranteur and Sisterhood pledge.
There was no real routine and I started to feel the strain.
But my stubbornness meant I did not cry for help.
Biut some responsibilities were taken off me and I just graduated from Uni so I'm thrilled.
Mrs Chris this was really for me.. I hate with passion waking up late, I even love beating my alarm clock to wake up lol... But lately with new things coming my way I guess I'm going to have to create a new normal. I really do love everything I do and have got some new responsilbillities that I'm finding are weighing much more than I anticipated because I'm not using my time correctly.
ReplyDeleteSo from now I'm going to create a "new normal" so I can get back on track with the things I'm meant to do.
Thanks for sharing it really did help
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thanks a lot for this post i actually past this same situation and i just réorganised my shedulle but to be honnest it hard to me to do all things that i have to do but i work on it and i know i will get there and found my routine and after it will change again !
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For 3 month I have been feeling this strain and now I realise its simply because I didn't adapt to my new lifestyle hence the stress which resulted in me feeling down and breaking out all over the place. I would literally sleep working it became crazy, then I cried out for help before things got overboard. The best part was reading this blog. Thanks Mrs Chris.
ReplyDeleteMrs Chris,
ReplyDeleteI've already read your post when it came out first and I stooped and thought, yes, make a new normal! This was around when I just started uni nd my situation on wednesdays and I was so revolted and to tell the truth, I didn't want to have a "new normal" I wanted the old one in my way! Just remixed a bit but still on my terms.
Now, more into uni God has blessed me with more responsibilites and my routine is the same, so I've been finding it hard to deal with as my routine has been distrubed and now I really do need to find a new normal. Everytime I change it, something new comes and I need to change it again!
I really need to sit down and prioritize the most important things and get rid of the extras...
Its going to be hard but I had to so I have quality in what I do, nothing I do can be slapdash as its for God.
Your post has helped me twice, and will probably help me many more times!!
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Good post. It's true that sometimes things do affect our routine. But we can't allow our relationship with God to suffer. We have to find a way around it, and that's what you did. Please say hi to the hubby for me. Say us Americans send our regards.
ReplyDeleteI agree Mrs Cris, the same thing happened with me!
ReplyDeleteIts usaully hard to adapt to new things, but when we ask God for guidance all seems much better, lighter even!
God bless you more and more
Kisses
Ps.. I just watched the show it's great to watch, here in Ireland we don't have one just yet! We will have soon, but its so good to watch these instead of other things onT.V!
I have been experiencing this, recently. I am responsibe for 2 groups, I am moving house, I am doing the Sisterhood Tasks, I have to made time for God, spend time with my famiy... it has been soooo hectic. Since seeking God and surrendering everything into His hands, I noticed things have been easier and just fitted into place. There was a time I felt like the situation was consuming me, but now God is in control and I do not have to freak out because it is in Gods Hands. x
ReplyDeletevery helpful!, you know Ms chris my life isnt even as busy as yours but there are particular days that just feel as if i have soo much to do within the church, Rush month tasks etc,homework but really all i need to do is to plan espeacially on those days when im not too busy. this would also make me feel guilty too as i wouldn't spend time with God but im going to put this into practise take out the unecessay things,where i could be spending time with God . Thanks :)
ReplyDeleteThis has helped me a great deal, lately I have not really had time for myself because I have school 5 days a week then usually after I either have church or catch-up work not to talk of revision and still managing to do housework, my sisterhood task and staying faithful to the VYG, now I know I have to adapt everything and make a new normal so I don't feel stressed and guilty.
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Hello Mrs Chris,
ReplyDeleteI was going through your blog and I could't help but read this post although it has been there for months now.
It relates so much with what I have been going through lately, I too have received new responsiblity (praise God, because I enjoy it) but the problem with me is that I did not know how to schedule my time in the most effective way and I would at times get stressed, feel bad when it did not go well as expected and also because I was going to bed later than I am used to. At times I would feel like I wasn't meant to have this much to do and that I should drop it because I can't make it. But after praying to God about it He showed me that what I needed is to know how to schedule my time properly which was something I didn't know how to do.
Now with your advice I understand that it is just a matter of knowing how to manage time according to the responsibility given and have the will to make it happen because when you have tehis desire to make things work you do it.
Thank you
Iracema g(London)
I use to panic a lot as well Mrs Cris, when i have to work come back cook supper have time for my husband but until the day i said, better I reschedule my plan now, to wake up early and prepare everything before going at work coz before i will do all those when i come back, i make sure when i go at work my house is organised only dinner is waiting for me and spend much time with my husband. And true what you said all these needs us to allocate them well pray and allocate them and we will find a solution.
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Good afternoon Chris,
ReplyDeleteDeep breath, it's not wicked to rest! the Lord knows you have to recharge your batteries! If you don't rest enough and eat your greens, you will be ratty and headachy. Don't for get oranges and water throughout the day, they keep you hydrated and your blood sugar even.
Calm down young lady have a wonderful week.
HelenX
Hello & thank you. I can definitely relate to this happening to me. It is frustrating at first like most changes are. You work hard to get a routine in place that works for yourself & your family & before you know it something happens that throws it off & you start to feel out of sorts. Yes the key is to just adapt. Almost like a GPS when you change the direction & the automated voice says "one moment re-calculating". Figuring when that old routine is no longer working is definitely better than continuing to be upset & feeling defeated.
ReplyDeleteGod bless you