Part 9: 10 Ways to Change Your Man into a Grump

Don’t bother much with your appearance anymore. Afterall, he has to love you just the way you are.

Oh dear. This is a trap many women fall into and one that I fell into too. Before getting married, many women make sure they look their best. Make-up and hair looks good, they keep an eye on their figure and exercise regularly, they wear nice clothes. They would never let their man see them any other way. But now that he’s all theirs, well, now it’s a different story...

I remember taking ages to get ready before going out with my boyfriend but once I was married for a while, I thought I was too tired and too busy to make much effort anymore. Sure if we went out, I made sure I looked nice, but around the house… oh that was another story. As soon as I came home from work, hair would be messily put up, the old baggy pyjama bottoms would go on (sometimes a pair of his old tracksuit bottoms), a baggy t-shirt and then straight into the kitchen to cook. I wanted to feel comfortable with nothing tight around my waist. I wouldn’t bother taking a shower before sitting down with him. He had to accept me in my baggy clothes and stinky skin. I cringe when I think back.

But one day, a dear friend advised me. Now, I’m not saying that you have to wear a party dress while you’re doing the dusting, but surely a nice pair of jeans wouldn’t be bad with a nice top? If you’re like me, I don’t like my hair in my face when I’m working or cleaning, but a nice, neat pony-tail would be good wouldn’t it?

Even those times when my stomach swells to twice its normal size before my monthly visit, I really don’t feel like wearing anything fitted because everything feels tight. So I bought this really pretty dress and have a few other nice items that are loose around my tummy so that I can look and feel nice even during those days.

So ladies. Let your husband always fancy you as well as love you. Remember, he is probably surrounded by women at work or on the tube/train who take pride in their appearance and smell good. Why should he come home to someone that stinks of his dinner, feels like a hedgehog because she didn’t shave her legs and looks like she can’t afford to wear anything decent. Isn’t he worth the effort? Aren’t YOU worth the effort?