Make sure your needs and desires are met before even thinking about his.
When you get married, you’re not alone anymore. This sounds like a pretty obvious statement, but in reality, this is where many people slip up, driving their other half crazy.
If you want a moody man, don’t give him any consideration. Buy whatever clothes, shoes, accessories, etc. that take your fancy without asking him if there is anything that he wants to buy that month. Perhaps he can buy something next month since the money has already run out.
How about going out? Make sure you only go to the places and watch the movies YOU fancy. Afterall, he can’t expect you to sit through a war film. But of course, he should sit through a romantic chic flick. EVERYONE loves those.
Make sure you always visit YOUR relatives when you get the spare time. You much prefer their company to that of your husband’s relatives. He can always speak to them over the phone. He won’t mind. Women are more needy afterall.
And the list goes on…
Friends. Try putting your other half first. There are times when my husband and I take ages on deciding on a place to go. Do you know why? It’s not because either of us are insisting on a particular place or activity. It’s because we want to please one another. I insist that we go somewhere that he prefers, and he does the same thing. It’s a kind of good disagreement if you know what I mean.
I´m not married yet but I believe a marriage just works when you stop pleasing yourself and when you give, not waiting to receive back.
ReplyDeleteBut Ms Chris, it´s not easy. Sometimes I think if I´ll be able to manage all the emotions and actions to make my marriage works.
Just with God helps!!
Your posts are helping me a lot...it´s a opportunity to prepare myself, and try not start making HUGE mistakes.
Thx!!
Hi Li. I'm really happy that you're finding the posts helpful. I agree with you, it's not easy, sacrifice never is, and emotions are difficult to control sometimes but not impossible. It's easy to explain thigs in theory, however to be in the situation is something completely different and of course we will make mistakes. I still make mistakes, although not as many, but I always grow and learn from them. The important thing to remember is not to dwell on your mistakes. You're human. Learn from them and be better next time and your future marriage will be a blessing. You have God afterall, the best Teacher we could ever ask for. Kisses to you. xxx
ReplyDeleteMy husband is so selfless most of the time - he puts my needs and wants before his. For example, when he wants to arrange to take me out he asks me where I would like to go and he would rather spend money on me rather than on himself. (And would rather I spent money on myself rather than on him).
ReplyDeleteWith this sort of selflessnes I don't find it easy to put him first and sometimes I feel it makes him happier to satisfy my needs and wants before his own.
However, I should guard against taking it all for granted and remember to put him first sometimes.