Throughout the day, keep a list of things to complain to him about, and as soon as he walks in the door go through it with him. Don’t even let him sit down.
Homecoming should be a time that a husband looks forward to. After a long busy day, full of stress and problems, all he wants to do is come home, relax for a little while to rest his mind, fill his hungry belly and then spend time with his lovely wife and know that she accepts and loves him just the way he is. Afterall, everyone else that day has given him a hard time.
Instead, as soon as he walks through the door, before he’s even had the chance to sit down, she starts bombarding him with all the problems she’s had throughout the day. What a terrible day at work, the kids were playing up, the bills need to be paid, the table in the kitchen still needs to be fixed, the bins need taking out and on and on she goes. He either ignores her and clams up making her think he’s rude and uncaring, or he snaps at her which makes her mad.
It’s not that your husband doesn’t care about your day, or the things that need doing. He just needs a little ‘me time’ first so he can unwind. Once he’s had that time, without any hassle from you, trust me, he’ll be a lot more responsive. You can say something like, “When would be a good time to discuss a couple of things with you?”. If he says ‘Later’, respect that. You’ll see that if you keep doing this, soon you won’t have to go through any lists with him. He’ll be asking you if there’s anything you want to discuss.
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