Part 6 of '10 Ways to Change Your Man into a Grump'

Always put the kids first. They need you more than he does.

Do this and you’ll have a very unhappy husband. Granted, your kids need you. They need your support, you advice, your care and your attention.But try and see things through a husband’s eyes...

There she was, his lovely wife who always gave him all the attention he needed. She would listen to his dreams and plans and show a genuine interest in everything that he did. She always looked extra special for him, cooked his favourite meals, and was always ready for loving, in fact, often, she initiated the love-making. He was so looking forward to having children with her. It was going to be a new phase in their lives which they would share and it would bring them even closer together.

The reality?

She doesn’t pay him much attention anymore, let alone be interested in his plans. She often walks around with baby vomit all down her top, ‘doesn’t have time’ to cook anything he likes (fish fingers will do because the kids love those) and as for the bedroom… well, that hardly happens anymore because she says she’s too tired.

Imagine how that makes him feel. When you married, you became one with him not with your future kids. Now, he feels like he’s lost a part of himself. The result - a very unhappy and stressful marriage which in the end does the kids a lot of harm too. Childen thrive when their parents have a great relationship. If you don’t get things in the right order, your husband, your kids and consequently YOU will suffer.